1 – “We’re just gonna go with the flow…”

Yes, “flow” can be extremely useful in the birth process. AND without preparation, intention, information-gathering ahead of time, it can be hard to keep your flow once you step into a hospital setting that has a whole lot of it’s own flow – most of which isn’t set up to support the flow of a hormonal laboring person and family.  

It is imperative that you do the work – now – of learning your options and working together with your partner to strategize as a family how you want to navigate the birth process before the big day, so that when it comes to your labor, you CAN truly go with the flow.

2 – “We need to commit to a plan in order to write a birth plan…”

The notion of a birth “plan” often leaves folks feeling like it’s necessary to commit ahead of time to a certain distinct way of decision-making in labor (ie – I *will not* do any pain medication or “give me my epidural ASAP”). The inflexibility of this is a setup for disappointment if things don’t go to “plan.”

A birth plan isn’t actually meant to be a plan for how your birth is going to go; think of it as a tool for communication with the medical team as to how you want to feel as you birth your baby – no matter how things unfold. 

What’s lovely about this is that you can let go of feeling like you have to commit to a particular pain management strategy in order to do your birth plan; you will, however, need to do the work of understanding all of your options (for pain management, but also hospital protocols, care provider-specific preferences, and baby-related care/interventions and choices).