“Enjoy every minute, they grow up so fast.”A. The worst thing you can possibly say to an overwhelmed, sleep-deprived parent whose baby woke up every 90 minutes last night. B. Well meaning reminiscing by people with amnesia. C. More about the speaker than the spoken to. D. A reflection that once we become parents, time is no longer the linear interval we once thought it to be. E. All of the above.
Mindfulness applied to parenting is not about enjoying every moment.
It won’t necessarily make parenting peaceful or easy.
This is a tool for when things are messy—so that maybe we won’t be so hard on ourselves and our kids. It gives us the space and time to make a conscious choice to respond versus automatically react.
Contractions take focus and intention to navigate. But by making a conscious choice to acknowledge what is actually happening in the present moment without getting lost in judgment or wishing things were different, we can meet the waves of our experience with more openness and compassion.
By holding our experience with non-judgmental awareness, curiosity, and playfulness, we can simultaneously hold our children’s experience with more compassion. When we show up for ourselves, we simultaneously embody the loving presence our children need.